THE DRUNKENMONKEY RLBF AND FM TO SDJ444's blog: "Just to get shit off my chest"

WHAT GIRLS LOOK FOR A girl's mind works in strange ways-as if you didn't know-and the things that attract them to men are mostly NOT what you expect . Here's what they are( not necessarily in order of importance ) :-- Honesty Sense of humor Eye contact Smiles Personality Confidence Maturity Sensitivity Looks (this one is definitely in the right place in order of importance!) Ever noticed how a girl goes completely berserk when she finds out you've lied . What's all the fuss about? you think . The big fuss they make tells you something crucial -- HONESTY is very very important to girls. Remember this if you are naturally honest and use your honesty to full advantage. Be honest with her even if your natural instinct in a particular situation is not to be . If you are naturally dishonest conceal this at all costs-you're probably good at that anyway! A good sense of humor is amazingly attractive to most girls . They want a man who is FUN to be with .If you can make a girl laugh you're 90% there . If you have a good sense of humor-use it at every appropriate opportunity . If you haven't- WORK on it - and develop one . This can be done - watch those that have this and use their techniques - try the one that suits your personality best-experiment . EYE-CONTACT is in my opinion the single most important factor in your success and for this reason I will go into this in more detail later . (similarly with SMILES ) A strong personality draws most girls . They really do go for a man who knows what he wants to do - no matter what anybody else thinks about him . Girls are also drawn to confident men who are assertive , positive and don't dither . If you are less than confident - don't show it . LOOK CONFIDENT . How do you do this? TRY-study body language , either get a book on this or just observe & imitate any confident men you see around you . Stand up straight ,never fidget , head up high , slow ,steady movements and above all EYE to EYE contact at all times. You know the things I mean -observe & learn & apply . Maturity is a big turn on with most girls . This is one reason that quite a lot find older men attractive . So it usually pays to act pretty sensibly when you're with girls ( not to the extent that you lose your sense of humor and fun of course ). Drinking beer until it comes out of your ears, falling over senseless and going on the rampage might be a good laugh when you're with the lads but it won't impress her. She might laugh but inside she'll be eaten up with embarrassment. A lot of men think that girls are turned on by very macho men - but most girls think completely the OPPOSITE . Girls like their men to be sensitive . Don't take this too far , girls want their men to act like men but try and mix being a man with being caring and sensitive . A heady cocktail that girls find irresistible ! If you find something 'nice' or 'pretty' or something upsets you - tell her. You'll be surprised how much she warms to you . Especially if the something nice or pretty is about her!! Whilst girls obviously go for good looks and a decent body it comes surprisingly LOW on THEIR list of priorities . By itself it doesn't turn them on like it does men . Ask a girl if she is turned on by these things , she will probably say yes but deep down a girl knows she can't find any man a turn-on unless he CARES for her too. For this reason , if you are worried about your looks and body (and who isn't?)-put your worry out of your mind and concentrate on the things given in this book that girls want . This is probably the hardest thing that you have to do in the entire book.

Okay, so we women do not understand the men as much as we would like to, and the men do not get us that well either. It is simply because we ladies are wired differently from them and have our own set of behavior that sets us apart from the guys. We have only about 78 genes in common with men. Heck, we even have our own language that men can never ever dream to understand. Unless he is gay, of course. There are just so many things that we do which seem normal to us, but which men simply do not comprehend and even find mind-boggling. Were you ever curious what men find confusing about us? Below are the ten biggest mysteries of the female psyche, from a man’s point of view. Perhaps you'd like to enlighten your partner about these... 1. Purse size. For us ladies, the smaller the purse we are carrying, the better it is. After all, all we need to survive the rigors of daily life are lip gloss, some tissues, oil control film, keys, a credit card and some change. Guys don’t get the fact that we don’t need to lug the entire house around to survive the outside world. 2. No-answer questions. So you ask your man if he thinks that the girl who just moved into the house across the street is a hottie. Then he gets upset when you get upset because he said yes. Who wouldn’t be upset if your man thinks another woman is gorgeous? Wouldn’t you? 3. Jeans. He complains that your habit of changing your jeans a couple of times to find something that will fit perfectly is totally unnecessary. He thinks that no matter what type of jeans you are wearing, your hips and legs still look the same to him. Wrong! Some jeans make us look lean and long, while some make us look fat. How can he not understand that? 4. Quality time. It is not enough for your man to be with you physically, especially when you know his mind is elsewhere. So he should not complain when you complain that he doesn’t spend quality time with you, even when he sat with you on one of your Lost marathons. 5. Salads. When we say we are not hungry, we are not hungry. So what if we just ate all his French fries after we were done with our ubiquitous salads? Eating French fries is bad for him, anyway. 6. Size does not matter. Men shouldn’t complain when we ask them to kill those roaches and mice for us. Cockroaches are icky. Mice are icky. Eating raw fish at a Japanese restaurant on a regular basis and taking karate lessons once a week has nothing to do with why those pests are icky, okay? 7. Good guys, bad guys. The rules of dating are simple, guys. Allow us a few days to glorify you in our fantasies. Do not shatter these fantasies by acting like a stalker and calling us every five minutes. Do that when we’re already going steady, not before. 8. Bathroom talks. We girls need the respite the bathroom gives us. That is the one perfect place where we can gather our girlfriends to talk about you. So when we ask our gal-pals to go to the bathroom with us, don’t bother asking why we go as a group, okay? 9. Room temperature. We do not care if you think that it is sweltering outside. We feel cold. Period. 10. Bedhead. A bedhead that was produced by careful styling, spraying, gelling and blow-drying lasts longer than a real bedhead. You guys want us to look pretty all the time, don’t you? So stop complaining ok i guess this does help a little its one of my life goals to figuare out woman if its the last thing i do!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you all want to comment go right ahead i need help.

Guys Are From Mars, Girls Are From Venus (Gender Issues) Ray and Sue Bohlin -----Inoduction In our attempt to discuss some of the differences between men and women, it is important to recognize that we are speaking in generalities. Most men will find a true description of themselves in the following discussion but some will want to quibble with a few of the characteristics. The same will be true for women. This is simply a result of the fact that we are all unique to a certain degree. Some men are naturally more sensitive than others and some women are naturally more aggressive than others. Just remember that we are describing men and women in general terms, not in hard and fast categories. At the end of the twentieth century, the culture is finally recognizing what the Bible has declared for millennia. Men and women are different! The following table is a small sampling of the numerous differences between men and women. Basic Differences Between Men and Women {1} Men Women Sense of self: achievement Task-oriented Self-reliant Ask for help = weakness Sense of self: relationships Relationship-oriented Inter-dependent Ask for help = compliment Focus is on goal Enjoy the process Competition Cooperation Analytical Intuitive Linear: focus on one thing at a time. Compartmentalized (chest of drawers). Multi-taskers: juggle many little things at once. Contiguous (ball of yarn). Action-oriented. Hostility: physical. Feels better by solving problems. Verbal Hostility: verbal Feels better by talking about problems When under stress: distracts self with various activities to relax. Withdraws into his "cave." When under stress: gets more involved with others. Talks in order to be heard and understood Primarily needs respect (trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement). Needs to be needed. Primarily needs cherishing (tender care, understanding ,respect, devotion, validation, reassurance). Needs to be protected. Words: for conveying facts and information. Words: like breathing Stu Weber provides a helpful summary of theses differences.{2} Men tend to be tough and strong. Women tend to be tender and gentle. A man tends toward logic and linear thinking. A woman tends toward emotion and verbal communication. A man tends to be a risk taker, ready to "go for it." A woman generally prefers security and order. A man tends toward relational insensitivity, a woman toward sensitivity. A man looks toward the long haul. A woman is concerned about here and now. A man tends to be more skeptical and suspicious (I think it's the protector in him). A woman tends to be more believing and trusting (I think it's the nurturer in her). Gary Smalley provides a helpful illustration on how men and women differ. These analogies describe men and women in their natural states, but is not meant to imply that they cannot learn to think like and appreciate their opposite. {3} The butterfly has a keen sensitivity. It is sensitive even to the slightest breeze. It flutters above the ground where it can get a panoramic awareness of its surroundings. It notices the beauty of even the tiniest flowers. Because of its sensitivity, it is constantly aware of all of the changes going on around it and is able to react to the slightest variation in its environment. Thus, the butterfly reacts with swiftness toward anything that might hurt it. (Try to catch one without a net sometime.) If a tiny pebble were taped to its wing, the butterfly would be severely injured and eventually die. The buffalo is another story. It is rough and calloused. It doesn't react to a breeze. It's not even affected by a thirty-mile-an-hour wind. It just goes right on doing whatever it was doing. It's not aware of the smallest of flowers, nor does it appear to be sensitive to slight changes in its environment. Tape a pebble to the buffalo's back and he probably won't even feel it. The buffalo isn't "rotten to the core" just because he goes around stepping on pretty flowers. In fact, the buffalo's toughness is a tremendous asset. His strength, when harnessed, can pull a plow that four grown men can't pull. . . . He [man] may tend to "plow" through circumstances, while [the woman] may "feel" life and [her] surroundings with much more sensitivity. Because of a lack of recognition of these differences between men and women, there is a great deal of gender confusion in our culture. A boy needs to be respected in his maleness. First he needs respect from his family, then from his peer group. If he doesn't get that respect and acceptance, he's stuck at that point in his emotional development. When puberty hits, the need for bonding with other males is sexualized. By adolescence/adulthood, he is constantly looking for his deep emotional needs to be met by other males, which should have happened in childhood. God's plan: get respect of other males, then move on to healthy relationships with women. A girl needs to be cherished in her femaleness. She needs to know she's cherished, protected, and nurtured. If a girl is abused, she will seek cherishing from what may seem like the only safe place--other females. When uniquenesses aren't nurtured early there can be negative consequences. When a child's God-given uniquenesses are assaulted--by abuse, neglect, or lack of validation--it can warp his or her sense of what it means for a girl to be female or for a boy to be male. This warping of self-image can result in gender identity confusion, which is what underlies a great deal of homosexuality. Stu Weber, in his book Tender Warrior, suggests that radical feminism is a frustrated revolt against "unmanly men." {4} Weak men have little or no concept of what it means to fulfill God's plan for a man to be provider, protector, mentor, and lover. Tyrant men have abused their caring responsibilities toward the women and children in their lives. The men's movement may also be a reaction against "unmanly men

It Don't Matter lyrics Sittin in traffic another day of feeling nothing Trying to find something I guess it's back to huffin' Paint and model glue oh how I die when I look At you smilin' lovin' life and all I know is blue Rainy days and cold stares broken love affairs Everything's beautiful as long as I ain't there I guess I wasn't meant to crack a smile who cares I think I'll go to sleep for a while now I'm barely livin' in my skin depression's my only friend And I don't know where I am heading tryin' to forget where I've been And I'm so sick of lying God please shwo me that silver lining Cuz I've heard tale and I'm not well my heads full of hell and This world's a jail but And it don't matter and I don't care I let my pain into the air Cuz everything good's over there And everything here's hard to bear And it don't matter and I don't care I let my pain into the air Cuz everything good's over there And everything here's hard to bear And as the apin begins to displace had it to ear level With this place you see it on my face a state of suspended grace Gradually I erase and find comfort in the sickest womb I might be present but no in the room To whom it may consume melting ensembles bleeding chellos running through Bordellos drama Like Othello hidin' out from Poncharello Dead off in the Median Fallin apart like usual handin' out flyers to my funeral So they say that life's a play and that all the world's a stage Then for another part I pray the show ends the same way everyday And my heart carries the pain of a brain I can't explain Am I insane Am I insane And it don't matter and I don't care I let my pain into the air Cuz everything good's over there And everything here's hard to bear And it don't matter and I don't care I let my pain into the air Cuz everything good's over there And everything here's hard to bear And everything good is gone And everything good is gone And everything good is gone And everything bad is here And everything bad is here And everything bad is here It doesn't really matter now does it And it don't matter and I don't care I let my pain into the air Cuz everything good's over there And everything here's hard to bear And it don't matter and I don't care I let my pain into the air Cuz everything good's over there And everything here's hard to bear Ok this song is pretty much slef explantory just my life in a nut shell i hope it gets better soon.

Try not to worry too much about whether or not you're stressing over something that matters -- focus instead on reducing that stress! It might take a long walk or just a marathon television session. FOOTBALL WEEKEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ode to the Nice Guys This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style. This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you. This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that. The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single. So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

Brokenby Heartbroken Mop I'm broken inside my mind because of you your love your touch is gone and you tease me with your love and when I reach for it you quickly close up for you I say why do you change you mind You Said I Love You I Said I Did Too You Said GOODBYE and all I did was cry

BEFORE I FORGET SLIPKNOT Stapled shut – inside an outside world And I'm sealed in tight – bizarre but right at home I'm claustrophobic – closing in And I'm catastrophic – not again I'm smeared across the page and doused in gasoline I wear you like a stain, yet I'm the one who's obscene Catch me up on all your sordid little insurrections I've got no time to lose - I'm just caught up in all the cattle Fray the strings… throw the shapes… hold your breath… listen I am a world before I am a man I was a creature before I could stand I will remember before I forget Before I forget that [x2] I'm ripped across the ditch and settled in the dirt And I wear you like a stitch, yet I'm the one who's hurt Pay attention to your twisted little indiscretions I've got no right to win - I'm just caught up in all the battles Locked in clutch… pushed in place… hold your breath… listen I am a world before I am a man I was a creature before I could stand I will remember before I forget Before I forget that [x2] My end, it justifies my means All I ever do is delay My every attempt to evade The end of the road and my end It justifies my means All I ever do is delay My every attempt to evade The end of the road I am a world before I am a man I was a creature before I could stand I will remember before I forget Before I forget that [x3] YEA IAM IN A MOOD AGAIN. FROM THE LAST BLOG I HAD. I HAD A GREAT JOB AND I GET A VOICE MAIL YESTERDAY MORINING SAYING THAT THE COMPANY IS GOING IN ANOTHER DIRECTION WITH THERE TECH SUPPORT AND I DONT HAVE A JOB BUT THEY WILL KEEP MY INFORMATION AND THE CORPATE OFFICE SAID TO DO THAT THIS IS WHY I LOVE THE MONEY BUT HATE SUTIES. IAM BACK TO SQAURE ONE YET AGAIN IAM BEGINING TO THINK ABOUT FINISHING SCHOOL AND GETTING A PARTTIME JOB AND OPEN MY OWN BUSSINESS AGAIN BUT YET AGAIN YOU NEED MONEY TO DO THAT. SO WISH MY LUCK YET AGAIN AND I WILL KEEP YOU ALL POSTED.

well that job i though i had they said they where going in aanother dirction and they did not need me so now iam jobless again maybe it was a dream i hate this shit:(

party at my house i got the job but its still BYOB because i dont start until a week from this monday LMAO