Why You Haven't Met A Great Guy Yet
NOTE: You might be wondering where in the world
you can meet a fun attractive guy. But do you
actually know what to SAY or DO when this great
guy shows up so things "click" and move forward?
You'd be surprised to learn that finding the right
man, and knowing how to attract him are almost
one in the same. If you're NOT 100% confident in
your ability to ATTRACT the right man when he
finally comes along, and keep his attention and
interest, then you need to go and read THIS:
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Dear Crystal,
Are you wondering where in the world you
can meet a great guy right now?
And do you ever wonder what it is that's
keeping you from meeting the one for you?
Is it timing?
Is it your old boyfriend holding you back?
Is it your life and your routine that's
making you miss him?
Or is it something you've done in the past,
or something you're doing wrong now?
If you've ever thought about these, then
tell me something honestly...
Have you ever felt frustrated and wondered,
"how come there just aren't any great men
out there?"
If so, then I've got some good news... and
some real-world tips that are sure to help you
find and ATTRACT a great guy.
To get started, here's something I've been
thinking about a lot lately...
How come all the available men out there
who are actually single and available don't
seem interested in being with what I'll call
"real women"?
Women like YOU.
Instead... even the smartest, most handsome
and successful men are constantly going for
women who seem to have little or nothing to
offer them.
And not only that, some men go for women who
might "look good", but who act CRAZY and are a
total mess inside.
What's the deal here?
Do guys really NOT WANT women of SUBSTANCE?
Women who are actually MATURE and INTERESTING,
and who can bring depth to their life?
Are men ATTRACTED to "bad" women?
And are men really this blind and
"short-sighted"?
The EASY answer is yes... men are all
screwed up and shallow, there's nothing you
can do about it, and keep looking for that one
in a million guy who is different.
But as a good friend of mine told me a
while back - When you live the EASY WAY, life
is HARD. But when you live the HARD WAY,
life is EASY.
This couldn't be more true.
So let me ask again...
Are men really this short-sighted and messed
up?
Or is SOMETHING ELSE going on here that
you're just not seeing yet?
If you're thinking ahead, then you might
already get where I'm going with this...
I'm going to suggest to you that something
else IS going on here.
See, if the world was "fair", then the best
woman would get the best man.
But in case you haven't noticed, it doesn't
seem to work this way.
If you're the "better person", a man isn't
going to see the tall leggy blonde standing next
to you with the short mini-skirt on who's trying
to get the attention of every man in the room...
and then walk up to her, elbow her aside, look
you in the eyes and say,
"Hey, there you are. I've been looking
for a great woman and I could tell you were a
quality person from across the room. Let's get
to know each other and talk."
Sure, that would be great if this ever
happened, and it seems "fair"... but this is
unfortunately NOT how the world and men
actually work.
What would be more likely to happen in this
bar scenario is that:
-the blonde at the bar would probably grab the
good guy before you could get a word in
-she'd proceed to flirt shamelessly with him
and have to be the only woman to have his
attention
-the guy wouldn't even notice you until the
other woman unknowingly started spilling her
drink all over you and the man would see this
and feel kind of sorry for you but not really
care or notice you
Ouch!
If you've been around the block a few times,
then you already know that When it comes to men,
dating, and relationships the world is generally
pretty UNFAIR.
Here's the thing...
If you've ever had an experience with a man
like the bar scenario above then I feel for you.
I know it SUCKS.
By the way, if you'd like to get to
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ATTRACTED to a woman in the first place, and
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then I can quickly help you understand what's
going on here.
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Now, let's get back to how to meet and
connect with the right kind of guy.
WHY YOU HAVEN'T MET THE RIGHT GUY
Earlier I asked you if you've ever wondered
why there aren't any good men out there.
This was kind of a trick question.
See... if you've wondered this, and you feel
this way, then I'm going to suggest to you that
there's something deeper going on for you.
Something deeper than the fact that you
haven't crossed paths with a "hottie" who has
his act together.
What I'm saying is that odds are you have a
few critical ways of thinking and behaving in
your own life that are holding you back right
now and keeping you from CREATING the right
situation where you'll naturally end up meeting
and attracting a great guy.
Now, how do I know all this?
Obviously I don't know everything, but I do
know a few important things about how us humans
work... and about you as a woman and how men
think and respond to you.
If you have the kind of BELIEF inside your
head that's telling you there are no good men
out there for you... then something amazing
and powerful is probably happening in your life.
Your mind is finding a way to make this
sad situation true for you.
Think about it for a second...
Now, I'm telling you this because I believe
that if you can recognize the things that are
holding you back, like your own limiting beliefs,
and then you can take steps to move past them...
you'll quickly get past the old patterns and
situations in your love life.
And then you'll be able to get to a new place
where you'll no longer spend your time wondering
why you don't have a man in your life... and
you'll naturally start finding, meeting, and
attracting great guys wherever you go.
The Most Common & Destructive Beliefs About
Men And Dating Women Hold In Their Minds...
One of the most common and destructive beliefs
women hold in their minds about men and dating
is something it's taken me years to start to
see and understand.
If I had to sum it up in a sentence, it
would go something like, "When I meet the
right guy, I won't need to date and can skip
right to a real relationship with him."
Let me explain why this belief is so common
and counterproductive when it comes to connecting
with a man and growing into a great relationship.
See, the women who have this belief also
carry another kind of "secret belief" inside
them that is even deeper.
What's this belief?
It's that everything about meeting a man,
getting to know him, and growing into a
relationship that feels UNCERTAIN is
unnecessary and should go away.
Or to put it another way, aside from those
perfect situations where a man is head over
heels into you and begging you for a committed
relationship - DATING IS A DRAG.
Give me a silent nod if you've ever wished
you could just skip the hassle of "dating".
Well, there are a few critical things you
need to know about dating if you want to be able
to be with a man and move into a more serious
relationship:
1. Dating Is By Definition UNCERTAIN
When you meet a man and you're both getting
to know each other, there's almost no way you
can predict what he is going to do or say until
you get to know and understand him a little
better.
Sure, you've got your intuition, and the
power of ASKING QUESTIONS on your side... but
even these can't undo the uncertainty that
comes with dating.
For some women, this "not knowing" makes
them feel so vulnerable and out of control
that they literally become filled with anxiety
and worry and keep playing over all the angles
of what's happening in their minds until they
start to drive themselves a little crazy.
And this happens even more with women who
have been hurt in the past and haven't been
able to truly move past the pain they felt and
the fear that has become associated with being
close to a man.
The reality is, if you're not able to deal
with the uncertainty that is dating and getting
to know a man, and you let it bother you too
much on a mental and emotional level, you're
going to ruin something that could have been
great with a guy.
2. UNCERTAINTY can and must work in your favor
if you're going to successfully date a man and
grow into a more serious relationship with him
You might not have thought about it, but
UNCERTAINTY, as much as it can feel bad, can
be a great thing when you're just getting to
know a man.
What I mean is that the man you're with,
whether or not he will ever show you or admit
it, is feeling uncertain just like you.
And with that uncertainty comes a real
OPPORTUNITY.
See, men find the uncertainty of not
knowing if a woman is going to be "into them"
and if they'll have their feelings and
affections reciprocated VERY EXCITING.
If you've ever wondered why so many men
seem almost addicted to "dating", but never
settle in more serious relationships, this
is a large part of why.
It's NOT just the sex and the women.
It's the excitement of the uncertainty
and the challenge.
Men LOVE the feeling of not knowing whether
a woman is going to open up to them physically
and emotionally... and then going about making
it happen.
To get geeky on you for a second, you
could argue that most of men's behavior both
socially and sexually revolves around finding
ways to get women to open up to them.
But that's a whole different topic.
Anyways... the point is that uncertainty
can and should work in your favor with a man.
Instead of being something that makes you
feel fear and causes you to act in ways that
turn him off.
If you can make a man feel attracted to
you, and you can let him know that instead of
you feeling afraid that he's not into you,
that you're not sure if YOU are into HIM, then
a man is going to only feel that much more
intensely interested and attracted to you.
But the mistake most women make when they
feel uncertainty with a man is to think that
the uncertainty is all about THEM - when in
reality the entire situation is uncertain
for BOTH him and her.
Follow me here?
Good.
I've also got to point out that by being open
to communicating your uncertainty to a man
when you're dating, you gain another HUGE BENEFIT.
See, lots of women never let a man know that
they are uncertain about CHOOSING HIM, and why.
Lots of women don't want to "make waves" if
they think this could be the one.
But then something bad happens - the man
never learns from the woman what she really is
looking for, and what she really wants and needs.
Simply by letting a man know that you are
uncertain about CHOOSING HIM when you're dating,
something very powerful happens...
You subtly communicate to a man that you
are a woman who is SELECTIVE and who has
STANDARDS.
And of course, when this happens the man is
going to want to get to know your standards
very quickly to either:
A) Make sure he meets them and conforms to them
because he wants to be with you
B) Decides that he doesn't fit with what you
are really looking for and "disqualifies"
himself and saves you a whole lot of heartache
and frustration down the road.
Either way, you have a great outcome that
is sure to be to your benefit over the long
term.
Now, understanding why being the kind of
woman who communicates that she is SELECTIVE
and has STANDARDS is easier said than done.
In fact, it honestly takes a lot of time
just thinking about what these are and what
they mean to even understand what's going on
here when it comes to men and dating.
And then learning exactly how to put these
things into ACTION in your conversation and
your behavior with a man is a whole other
story.
Luckily I can help there. I've already done
all the heavy lifting for you.
Over several years I interviewed women in
the real dating world, talked to men in great
relationships with women about what worked with
them... and researched and observed everything
you could imagine from pick up lines in bars
to how married couples in long terms relationships
communicate and kept the love, affection, and
the understanding alive and well between them.
The product of my first several years of
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Your Friend,
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