Interests
The older the coin, the more valuable it is.
I was married for 14 years and now divorced for 6 years...
So who should I date? Once you get to a certain age, age has to stop being an issue.
This is the rule: Halve your age then add seven and that's the minimum age you can date. So if you're 44, the youngest you should date is 29.
I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. How it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. It doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how much you drink... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wondering what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. How in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were ever really happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that she'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. You'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again and little pieces of your soul will finally come back. All that fuzzy stuff, all those years of your life that you wasted, will eventually begin to fade.
And on top of that there's the old standby, I can't believe a girl like that would actually be with a guy like me.
From the movie "Meet Joe Black"
"Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find her? Forget your head and listen to your heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is, there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived."
Nobody get's you over the last one like the next one... So who's next? Who I'd like to meet? Someone young enough to have and raise children and yet old enough to not feel weirded out by being with me. Someone who is a lady first and foremost, when we are out in public and yet, when we are at home, we can kick back and just be free. I don't want to be her father figure, but I do enjoy being a father, so the person I want to meet must be a grown up. Don't get me wrong, acting like a little kid at times is what makes the good times better but I don't want to have to raise the person I am with. I don't know when or where I'm going to meet her but maybe one day, I will. And like the old saying goes, "You have to kiss a lot of girls before you ever find a possable wife and if it doesn't fit, keep looking for the one that does."
Now for a physical description:
Height: 4'-6" to 5'-7"
Weight: Proportional to height but Not Overweight (Size 2/4/6)
Hair: I prefer long haired Red Heads... I love long hair, the longer the better
Eyes: I prefer green eyes but...
if you do read this, props to you... mention the word "Canandaigua" in your requests or messages so I'll know...
You are the Hanged Man
Self-sacrifice, Sacrifice, Devotion, Bound.
With the Hanged man there is often a sense of fatalism, waiting for something to happen. Or a fear of
loss from a situation, rather than gain.
The Hanged Man is perhaps the most fascinating card in the deck. It reflects the story of Odin who offered himself as a sacrifice in order to gain knowledge. Hanging from the world tree, wounded by a spear, given no bread or mead, he hung for nine days. On the last day, he saw on the ground runes that had fallen from the tree, understood their meaning, and, coming down, scooped them up for his own. All knowledge is to be found in these runes.
The Hanged Man, in similar fashion, is a card about suspension, not life or death. It signifies selflessness, sacrifice and prophecy. You make yourself vulnerable and in doing so, gain illumination. You see the world differently, with almost mystical insights.
What Tarot Card are You?
Take the Test to Find Out.
Idols
What's wrong with all of us guys? I could ask you girls the same question... but I have a better one.
Why don't you ever go for the guys who aren't trying to use you for sex? Answer: your brains aren't hard-wired to do so. Excitement, entertainment, passion, and sex trigger the same set of emotions in you. On the other hand, hard-work, good morals, flattery, and respect for women trigger a different set of emotions. Girls and women in the modern age are trained to be junkie addicts to the first set of emotions. Guys who don't stay up late to party and get drunk aren't "fun" or "adventurous." Guys who compliment you because they appreciate your beauty are just a bunch more guys who "can't handle me." The type of guy who would say "I can't wait until the next time we look each other in the eyes" is "needy" or "clingy." The list goes on and on, categorizing all the good guys, all the nice guys, all the guys who respect woman as some form of "insecure" or unfit as a boyfriend.
As you look back on your relationships, how many have not included sex? Really? Is the answer zero? If not, be honest with yourself, did you really consider those others to be relationships? The bottom line is that in your heads, it's not a relationship unless sex is happening. In fact, I would bet that in the relationships you've had that you had sex within the first 5 meetings, maybe even the first 3. Why? Well, because if that guy had not made a move to push things in the sexual direction, then you would get bored with him and move on.
Girls in a sexual relationship that is relatively young in duration are comfortable building a long-term relationship from it. However, girls dating (translate as "in a NON-sexual relationship") will not build a sexual or long-term and sexual relationship from it after a certain point. What's that point? It's different for all of you, but I bet you'd agree on my 3-to-5 meetings rule. After that, he's "just too insecure to make a move."
So hating the guys who are out for just sex is like hating yourselves. Think about it: A guy has to have sex with you in order to get into a relationship. So if that's the case, why ever try to form a relationship afterward? It's just another example of you being your own worst enemy.
The guys that you've labeled as "Slimy Jerks" are just the guys who don't have enough tact or finesse in their game to fool you long enough to have sex with you. That's the only difference.
I'm so sick to death of guys getting a bad name from women that I'm not going to take it any longer. It's time that all women look back on yourselves and realized that you are the problem.
So, to answer your question, what's wrong with all of us guys? Nothing! We're just working with the situation that nature gave us: a female brain that needs manipulation in order for it to feel comfortable.
And you know the craziest part? I didn't grow up hating you, I grew up loving women. I didn't grow up with male bravado and dominance; I grew up treating women as equals. And then I got to the real world, and you know what I found? Treating women as my equals got me nowhere, and not just sexually, either. It was the road without cuddling, kisses, or even hand-holds. So I wised-up.
Sincerely,
The Next Time
