It's called communication most people don't know how to do that about sex. Guys are the worst we are so busy trying to show off our skills we don't find out what she really wants. Some women had rather find someone else instead of asking for what they want from the one their with. It is worth it to find out I realize some people just don't fit. It's not anybody's fault just nature. I have had the privilege several times in my life to know people who fit me both physically and intellectually we all still communicate and get together when ever possible. The way I get to that point is to get to know the people I'm with you have to be honest about who you are and what u want. You also have to find out what the person you are with wants.