To start this off i have been in an abusive relationship. If you are in one of these relationship,get out now. Physical abuse is not the only abuse there is. There are emotional, physcological and others as well. If you are going thru any of these seek help and get yourself and your kids out, if there are any involved. All states have abuse shelters you and your kids can go to, to get out of it. It is not healthy for you or your kids to stay in it. Think of it this way would you want your kids to grow-up like the abusive spouse, if the answer is no, definitely get out. If anyone that happens to be reading this needs someone to talk to holler at me. If not on my page i will always be in rednecks bar, come hollar at me in there and i will come talk to you. I will try to help all i can to avoid anyone else from goin thru this.