ok, so i'm a damn pushover.
so my friend (read: ex boyfriend that i'm still friends with and still talk to on a regular basis and still love and care about as i do all my friends) has gambling issues as well as drinking issues. now, when we were dating, rules were simple, drink and i'm out the door and no we're not going to ac anymore. but now we're not dating. so now, he is dealing with one of his family members being an alcoholic in the hospital for the who knows how many-'th time. so what's he do? goes to ac. to gamble. and drink. oh, and he msg's me to ask if i want to go.... now after trying to talk him out of going, and not getting anywhere, i try to talk him into waiting until tomorrow night because i'm taking care of my mother tonight because she had surgery this weekend and i figure then someone else can watch her tomorrow night and i can keep an eye on him and take his card away if necessary, et cetera... but that doesn't work either. and really i'm having a fuck of a time trying to hold myself together on my own, i really don't have the energy to have the life sucked out of me by someone else.
so basically.... how does one move on and stop caring when they know that it's becoming detrimental to themselves to continue caring???
any ideas??
sin
