Ratto's blog: "14254"

So recently I put up an online dating profile. I have sent out over 12 first emails with no responses. Now there is no garuntee to get any responses but it got me thinking. How do these site actually figure out who would and would not be a good match? I mean you answer rather redundent questions and fill out a form.

Second thing it got me thinking about is a problem I never thought I would have.  While I have been told by many a lady that they wish to meet and date a guy like me. They never would go out with me nor have they ever dated anyone like me. So it got me thinking that maybe they were just being polite. But I have a friend that told me over 16 years ago that I am the kind of guy that women marry but not date. But how can you marry some one but not date?

Third thing I was think about is that in the ladies profiles they say they are tired of guys that just want the "hook up".  And they really want to know the person they are dating/meeting.  So while emailing them I talked about common intrests and asked simple and polite questions about them and the intrests we do not share. In hopes of getting to know them. Yet they never responded. Which means they are not interested. And that is their choice and right.  But was it because of my email or my profile or my pictures?

I remember the days of meeting some one in the bar or at school and asking them out. If they said no then you just walked away. Now a days you tweet them, friend them on facebook, or join dating sites. Mainly because it is just easier to blow some one off with out actually saying anything or looking them in the face.