Okay. It's a new day and I feel much more positive. I had a bad couple of days...so sue me. LOL.
I am back to being optimistic. One needs to only look to themselves for happiness and pleasure. Finding someone to share it is gravy, don't you think? Here's what I plan to do:
Move on with no regrets. Yes, you can spend time with someone and they can shit all over you. It's better to experience life, all it's ups and downs, and BE ALIVE rather than sitting around being cautious and wondering what might have been. Mind you, this doesn't mean being totally STUPID. But I believe that it's all good as long as you don't hurt anyone. Be HONEST and look at things with someone of the opposite sex for what the ARE and not what you WISH they were.
Oh, I must be frank here...honesty means not omitting little facts that could change someone mind about whether to be with you. Just wanted to clarify that. I know some things are better left for later in the relationship, but MAJOR things that you know would affect someone's judgment on whether to be with you (such as the fact that you are married or are living with someone that you're having sex with on a regular basis).
Still, some things to remember (in regards to the above statement).
1) If someone ONLY talks to you while they are working or are in their car - they are married.
2) If they don't want to talk at all about their home life....they are married.
3) If they accuse you of cheating on them...they are married or are in a relationship. Unless of course you are cheating...LOL
4) If they don't EVER invite you to their house....they are married. (Keep in mind though that sometimes their spouse is away and they can invite you over as long as they aren't friendly with their neighbors..LOL.
Why do I always feel the need to lay this stuff out to all of you? Cuz I am sweet that way :) And helpful.