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I work from home. I saw this on 'The View'. I thought I'd share my slightly altered version.
1. Do your own thing.
Don’t make a man the center of your universe. If you do so before you know if he feels likewise, he will likely lose interest and he might feel smothered by all the attention, favors and clinginess. They say that dating is and relationships are practice for marriage. But you're not quite there yet. So just take it easy for now, and keep your options close by.
2. Don’t overindulge.
While you might think its cute to have only two glasses of wine, we do not. Let him get to know you as you are while dining out. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. Also, order a real dinner. One guy said that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then, every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it! Lol.
3. Men are NOT afraid of commitment.
Typically, they just dont experience emotions or fall in love as fast. So we might need a little more time to decide if you’re the one. Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone. He’s going to wonder how after two dinners and one museum trip you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend.
4. We know you want to be invited in.
And we also know you'll probably say no. If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hop in bed on the first date. Even if we agree to it, we will probably wonder later, if you would do the same thing with any other guy you were turned on by? It's long range thinking. And this is also a good way to feel out whether he’s for real or not. Dont trip, wondering if a man will lose interest if you dont strip right away. In fact, for mature guys, it’s actually the opposite. It’s not a deal breaker every time, but it does make the “getting to know you” part take longer. But that is a good pay off in the long run.
5. Don’t call us all the time.
Let us call you. If we are hot for you, we definitely will. This relates to #2. If you’re consistently calling, texting, emailing, and doing all the asking out, we won’t need to. Let the communication be balanced, especially in the beginning. This is not to say that you can’t reach out to a man you’re dating, but let it be a balanced thing. Some guys like myself, actually dig reasonable amounts of 'Im thinking of you' communication. But usually it's after we are convinced that you are The Numero Uno.
6. Never assume you are exclusive.
As scary as it may seem to talk to your man about not seeing other people, it’s even scarier to just assume he isn’t seeing other people. Words are helpful, and you should use them sometimes. What if he tells you he wants to introduce you to his sister? You think, Awesome! But it still doesn’t mean exclusivity. He may just feel close and trusts you to meet people he loves. But tune out the wedding bells and again, never assume. Just appreciate and enjoy the visit as a dear friend for now.
7. Men aren’t all the same. Give us a chance!
Ahh... Along with racism, this is one of my biggest peeves. As easy as it would be to base every opinion you have on an experience you had with a guy or listen to your bff’s advice, not all men are the same. Even if you have been with too many jerk-offs, please try to remember that unless you were kidnapped, you picked them. It is said that a woman knows within five minutes of meeting a man if she will date him. Good guys, thugsters, etc; we pick our friends and lovers. I hope these tips were helpful. But like women, men are ultimately individuals. Let them show up and show you how much!
